340 Parents: When your kid does everything right and it still doesn’t work out

Q: When your kid does everything right and it still doesn’t work out

InGoal Magazine's Parent Segment cautions against blanket statements like 'you can do anything you put your mind to' when raising young goaltenders. When a goalie does everything right and still doesn't get the result they want — a starting spot, a callup, a win — that message can feel like a broken promise and undermine their trust in the process.

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In the Parent Segment, presented by Stop it Goaltending U the App, we dig into the potential dangers of statements like "you can do anything you put your mind to" for young goalies.

Avoid telling young goalies 'you can do anything you put your mind to' — it sets up false expectations when outcomes don't match effort.
Acknowledge that in goaltending and hockey, doing everything right does not guarantee the result a player wants.
Help goalie kids separate effort and process from outcomes, which are often influenced by factors outside their control.
Reframe parental encouragement around growth, resilience, and identity as a competitor rather than promised results.
Use honest, specific praise that validates hard work without implying that effort alone controls outcomes in a team sport.

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